Assuming you have read the post about Transformation, you will know what happened before I arrived in Los Angeles. But having arrived safely in LAX and surviving the luggage fiasco at the airport, I settled into my hotel room for the night. 

The next day we ventured into the ballroom for the 4-day program. My friend, Becca, started introducing me to several people at the seminar that she has known and worked with in this LUX program, so I felt a bit more at ease recognizing some familiar faces.  The first day was somewhat uncomfortable as I am not one who easily shares publicly or with strangers the details about my personal life.  But as the days passed and hours of instruction and interactions with many strangers, I felt myself changing, adapting, and enjoying the program.  I learned much and developed a deep respect for the presenter, Alison. 

I actually enrolled in nine of her online courses which was a God send as 3 weeks later, we were in lock-down in Hawaii with the pandemic looming.  I spent hours taking these courses and I have to say I felt transformed and wished I had taken this program 25 years earlier when Becca first invited me.  All these years could have turned out differently had I had the insight and knowledge that I received in these courses. 

During the pandemic, I wrote the following testimonial for Alison as she had deeply moved me.”

“My friend Becca Gardner and I have been friends for 38 years. She has attempted many times (yearly, if not more frequently) to engage or request my participation in Alison’s classes. For many reasons, I declined. I am highly educated with masters’degrees in administration and counseling and a doctorate in policy analysis and leadership. So, in my own mind, I was always able to work through issues that may have arisen throughout my life. I am by nature a happy, well-adjusted human who is able to let go of negative energy and events and move on easily. I tend not to dwell in unpleasantries.

So, this year when I got my yearly invitation, I wanted to support my friend and I guess I decided I also needed to get out of Dodge!! So, I joined Becca at the LUX institute in LA in January just prior to the pandemic. Large gatherings of this sort are not my thing. I tend to be quiet and reserved in these settings and don’t easily share…. that’s my mode of operation in my personal world…not so in my professional world. 

However, I opened my mind and was pleasantly surprised. I left after the sessions and returned to Hawaii with a slightly different perspective and sense of gratitude for Becca, participants I interacted with, and Alison. Becca and I were fortunate enough to briefly see Alison again on Kauai at the Lawai Center a week later.

While in LA, I was intrigued enough to sign up for a series of courses online and then the pandemic hit. Being on an island it was easy to lock us down and force shelter-in-place. Bored out of my mind being socially isolated, I decided to make productive use of my time and I worked through all of these online courses in addition to completing Deepak Chopra’s 21-day abundance meditation challenge three times. Between Alison’s insightful and well researched topics, I found myself with many epiphanies over the next 4 months of coursework. My whole belief system of male behavior has changed. I often wondered why men were such an enigma and why I had such a hard time navigating their thinking and behaving both personally and professionally.

 So, I just wanted to give Alison a shout-out and a tremendous compliment on enlightening women (and men also) on these strange male peculiarities (as seen through the perfect woman’s eyes) and in the male thoughts and behaviors so that our lives can be more fulfilled, happier, and more genuinely connected to the men in our lives, appreciating them for their wonderful nature.

This series has totally changed my belief about the goodness of men and how to interact and understand their thinking and behaving so I can honor and not emasculate them for not being worthy women.

This information would have been invaluable to me in my personal relationships with men, my marriages, and equally as important, in dealing with men in my profession. I recently retired so I missed out on being able to use it professionally but have noticed on a personal level the absolute change in how men react when they are treated and respected appropriately. THANK YOU for opening my eyes!!! I am 71 in years but feel like a young woman with new possibilities… my absolute appreciation to Alison.❤️

Thoughtfully and with gratitude…

Dr. Nancy Jadallah”

My message to anyone who chooses to read this blog is that we individually can improve, learn, see life through a new lens, change our perspective, change our behavior, transform, be who we want to be, face our fears and emerge as our best selves, our best bad-ass selves.